Never let your (very) little monster be awake for more than two hours. Up until the age of about 18 months, little people don’t cope being awake for more than two hours. An overtired little person is not a happy little person. So if they are up at seven, be ready to head back to bed at nine!
Listen to everybody and take what works for you, and leave the rest. Not into controlled crying but think the routines in that book could work for you? Say thanks for the routines and ditch the rest.
Lots of people will just disregard the whole book because the ‘parenting style’ doesn’t fit with theirs.
Listen. Before you answer, take a breath. Make sure they are finished before you respond. You’ll find both big and little people often have more to say and can talk themselves though things. Being and attentive listener will also help you to be less reactive. Double bonus.
Stay calm. Your kids mirror you. If they are yelling, what are you doing?